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Saturn goes retrograde in Libra: How is this relevant to you?

With whatever you are creating at this moment in time and for the next 6+ months, a new product, a new programme, a new series of art, a book, a new relationship, are you expressing your authentic self? What about the things you’ve already created, the relationships you are already experiencing, do they reflect your inner core, your true soul? Read the rest of this entry »

Criticism: How to deal with it

Don’t you absolutely hate it when someone offers you their unsought for critical opinion?! They think they’re only doing it for your own good…, they’re “helping” you. Yeah, right!. Even if you do ask for someone’s opinion, receiving a negative response is less than pleasant.Sometimes it becomes a lot easier to quietly go about you business, not sharing what you’ve been up to and generally being very private about your life. At least that way you don’t have to experience that tightness in your chest or the need to really suck in your breath when some well meaning (or not) person has something unhelpful to say…

Others of us retreat into ourselves becoming less and less confident to try things, buying into the constant criticism we’ve been surrounded by most of our lives, convinced we are not special and have nothing to offer.

Some of us feel the need to make excuses for whatever is being criticised, or to criticise the other person in return… No one likes to be criticised!

The first thing that is helpful to know is that  we are hard wired with survival instincts, so our basic instinct is to look for anything that doesn’t fit into what we know as “safe”. We subconsciously interpret anything different or unusual to that which we expect as a potential “danger”. So we are hard wired to be critical or negative, to figure out what is missing, what is still needed to make something ideal.

It takes conscious intention to retrain the way you think, to start to see your and another person’s “cup” as half full rather than half-empty. In otherwords it is all about perception, how you look at life and what you choose to expect from life.

Here is a simple system for approaching criticism in your life.

  1. Stop all that negative self-talk in your head. Whenever your critical voice starts up, lift your tongue upto the roof of your mouth, bizarrely enough this stops the talk instantaneously.You can then consciously choose to find something positive to say to yourself.If you don’t like you, you will emanate the feeling and attract criticism.
  2. Do not ask for another person’s opinion. Does my bum look big in this?How do you like my new haircut? Do you think they’ll like it? Or whatever else are you favourite ways of asking for criticism. All that matters is DO YOU LIKE IT?If you don’t thenstop wallowing in what you don’t like and change it, but if you do then really love it and send other people’s negative opinions to hell where the belong. [I find it helpful to imagine putting the negative words into an envelope and watching it fly off into the fires of hell and burn to ash. Amazing how cathartic little imaginations like that can be!]
  3. Don’t  judge other people.  Don’t criticise other people. No one else knows what another person’s experiences are, nor what their real difficulties are. We are each here to grow into deeper, more loving souls and sometimes we face enormous challenges on our path. Do not judge or criticise others for how they face those challenges.Approach others and their challenges, the things they get “wrong”, with an understanding heart. It will take time for people to get used to the new you but persevere and their respect for you will grow, and so will your respect for yourself. If you rarely have a negative opinion about another it is less likely they’ll have one about you. People always criticise most that which they feel threatened by…
  4. What to do when people offer their opinion sunsolicited. First, remember that all people spend 99.9% of their time thinking about themselves, so when they do think about you it will be for a very brief time and in no time at all, all critical thoughts about you will have left their minds and they’ll be thinking about something else entirely. So essentially their thoughts about you are irrelevant. Secondly, what others think about you is none of your business as the saying goes. What this means is that whatever they have to say only takes on relevance when you empower it by believing it, so politely thank them for their opinion and then ignore what they said.
  5. Give and receive appropriate feedback when required.Sometimes it is helpful to listen to others people’s thoughts but there is away to provide those thoughts and a way to listen to them. Firstly, when you offer a person some kind of feedback that you think is really important for them always be positive. Look at what they do that is great and tell them, then offer them your suggestion (feedback) in a way they can take it or leave it,that is a way that empowers them to choose to receive your feedback or not, and then offer them some follow-up praise or positive comments to remind them that really the positive is what is key. Then, when you are offered appropriate feedback or in some cases feedback poorly delivered but possibly relevant take the time to hear what they say without your emotions kicking in. See if there is anything useful in what they have offered, anything that you agree with or possibly gives you a different perspective. Any aspect you agree with make a commitment to yourself to change and then let the rest go, and move on.

Live your

life with gratitude, consciously start to look around you for all the things to be grateful for… your healthy body, your beautiful eyes, the food on the table, the fact that you have a job (even if its not your dream job, you at least have one)… it will amaze you how life starts to feel so much better. You start to notice all the good things around you, the birds happily chirping in the trees, the first flower in your garden after the long winter, the way the light falls through your living room window. Every moment you are able to experience this type of consciousness will change your energetic vibration, it will raise it, and your energy will flow more easily.

Fundamentally, the vibe emanating from you will change and you will, without even trying attract the things that respond to that level of vibration, that is, good things, happy things! When we feel low or are self-critical it is we unknowingly invite others to criticise us by emanating a negative energy. It is just our demeanor. They can’t help themselves.

How is it some people seem to be completely unphased by criticism? What others have to say doesn’t bother them, they just get on with their lives doing as they please… of course, some of those people may well be plain rebellious but the ones I’m talking about are the ones where people say “He’s so confident. If we could just bottle that confidence…”.  What they mean is they wish they were like that person.

And NO we are not born with confidence and NO it is not too late to develop it… It’s called loving who you are, valuing who you are and who you are here to be, “warts” and all. Getting to this is for another blog and for some of us a lifetime’s work but you can start by trusting you are exactly who you are meant to be, a diamond in the raw with life slowly shaving off facets to reveal your true beauty to the world. Criticism from others is just words, empty and meaningless, and they will never have any effect over the diamond cutter.  All the diamond cutter does is look at the raw stone and shave whatever is relevant off to bring out the beauty of the stone…  other people’s opinions are specs of dust, wipe them away and your beauty is revealed facet by facet.

If you’d like to know who you are here to be and what steps you could take to speed up the work of your diamond cutter and bring yourself out in your true beauty can find me on Facebook or you visit my website or contact me direct (details below).
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Helen Evans is a non-predictive life purpose hand analyst, astrologer and purposeful space designer.   Her passion is to help others share their true selves with the world, empower individuals to fulfil their dreams, entrepreneurial, spiritual and personal… to be paid for what they love to do, to live and work in spaces that make them feel good and to take care of themselves and their well-being.  She uses the pragmatism of her African upbringing and the deep intuition of her Celtic roots to guide her clients into the lives they really want.

If you’d like to know more about stepping out of your cave and into your light, please visit www.stepintoyourlight.com or contact Helen direct at info@stepintoyourlight.com

To discover your soul’s blueprint for building your purpose inspired life, ask for a hand analysis reading!

Spiritually Emerging… Are you?

My big passion is to get people to step out of the caves they are hiding in and share their “light” (gifts, talents, purpose, authentic selves, soul energy) with the rest of us. So you may wonder why I’ve been hiding out for awhile recently (I’ve not updated this blog for some time)…?

Well, truth be known, I had to step back a little way into my cave to undergo an internal transition. This part of my cave feels like a chrysalis, a cocoon, a place of quiet transformation.  I needed to retreat into myself to allow it to take place unhindered by analysis.  I’ve been through periods of emergence before and have found simply letting things come, letting things be is what makes the process simpler and more effective for me, so it is almost as if I am allowing a process to take place within me without looking at it directly, without shining my light directly on it… thus my ego, my personality consciousness does not feel threatened by the changes taking place and doesn’t put up any walls to the change. Well in theory at any rate. I did have some hiccups along the way, of my own making, but I’m getting there… I am emerging again, this time I feel like the caterpillar who finally realised their purpose was to be a butterfly and needed to make a cocoon for that change to take place. I have emerged with wings but they are still really wet. I think it will take me a little time to let them dry, to feel just how big they might be, to understand their colours, to trust they are safe, to learn to fly and share my true beauty with the world…

So, what is all this wonderful picturesque analogy talk really about?

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Celebrate!

Last week was a big birthday week for me and my family. My mother, my daughter and I celebrate our birthdays 4 days apart… my mother all but dismisses her birthday, mine is between my mother’s and my daughter’s so it tends to get forgotten until the last minute as I’m so busy trying to prepare for my 4 year old’s party. Talking to many people around me this seems so typical… we celebrate ourselves less and less as we get older. Why? Surely we should be celebrating ourselves more and more?

Wouldn’t it be nice if we could celebrate who we are and those around us everyday.  But lets be realistic! Life is busy and for most of us that’s not going to happen as much as we may like it to, so the next best thing is to take time out at special times of the year to celebrate who we are, where we’ve been, where we are, our capacity to love and be loved.

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Make a Decision: It is the source of your power

Many of us have lots of ideas about what the government should do, what our bosses should be doing, or how our friends should be raising their kids. But what about our own lives?

What ideas do we have about our own lives? Are we burying our heads in the sand, not looking at what we really want for ourselves? Perhaps you know exactly what you would like your life to be like, if so, what are you doing to create the life you want?

Most of us seem to be more comfortable to react to life or simply go along with whatever is thrown at us, never defining what we really want… ignoring the niggle at the back of our minds, the slight ache in our hearts… So what would happen if you did acknowledge your deepest dream, if you did look at what you really wanted?

Imagine you look at what you want full on, first your dream for yourself and your life starts to come into a proper focus, take on structure and definition, and you get a really good feeling thinking about how it would feel to live your life the way you want to, then… Read the rest of this entry »

What are you doing on Valentine’s Day?

Interesting how the date of the burial of a celibate martyred Roman Catholic priest has become synonymous with the celebration of romantic love…

Personally I don’t think it matters what the origins of a tradition are, what matters is what that tradition means for people today. What you choose to do today will indicate what the day means for you… so what are you doing today? Do let me know!

What does Valentine’s Day mean for you? 

How do you feel about it?

When I was a young girl Valentine’s Day was so exciting, it was all about the hope of love and there is nothing more exciting to a teenage girl! As the years have gone by my feelings for the day have varied… the years when I was not in a relationship and didn’t get any cards or gifts were so traumatic and lonely, really bad for my self-esteem… the years where I had someone to celebrate with have had such lovely moments, but all in all, I’ve realised that I don’t like the “pressure” associated with  St Valentine’s Day these days.

I want the day to be about love in general, especially the pure hearted, unconditional love that we humans are far more capable of than we realise.  I want Valentine’s Day to be about opening our hearts to ourselves and those around us.[When I say opening our hearts I do not mean opening our wallets! :)]

So many of us are so busy judging ourselves by our society’s expectations that our individuality means we are constantly coming up short and this is not good for our self-esteem so start today, Valentine’s Day, by showing yourself some love.

Do something you love, spend time with people you love and make sure everything you say about yourself and everything you think in your head about yourself is positive!  You cannot truly love another until you love yourself, warts and all!

Let me know how you showed yourself love today! [You can keep the naughty info to yourself!:)]

Today I am going to take the time to remind myself of all the activities I love to do, the places I love to go, how much I love my pussy cats [the black one is going blind!! :( ], the things I love in my home but most of all I’m going to focus on all the love there is between my husband, myself and our children. For me today is going to be about being grateful for all the love I have to give and all the love that is given to me.

As Valentine’s Day and Chinese New Year are coinciding this year, love and gratitude, seem to be a pretty amazing way to start the year of Tiger! GRRRRR!

Is your Life Purpose to be a success?

Do you know how to achieve tangible, measurable results? Do you know how to succeed? Or, do you have great ideas that never seem to come to fruition?

Are you always dreaming of what you could be? Is the idea of being successful exciting, but also a bit scary?

Do you feel like a failure at times, or is that too strong a word… perhaps, you think you don’t know enough to be a success?

Perhaps you’ve tried on a number of occasions to achieve something but it hasn’t worked out? It is your Life Purpose to be a Master of Results (a success in the world) if you have a deep desire to be independent, particularly with regard to making money and succeeding in your own terms. Those of us with a Master of Results Life Purpose tend to  experience everything but success before we finally figure out how to do it… often we hide out, so scared of failing we don’t try, so scared of success we put roadblocks in our way, but something keeps pulling at us… we want to be successful and the more we secretly hope for it, the more our efforts get sabotaged, the lower we feel.

You have a choice, you can continue to exist as you are or you can decide enough is enough! It is time to get back onto your road to achieving tangible, measurable material results!

For a fledgling Master of Results,

we need to understand our belief systems about money and success to prevent them being our own internal roadblocks.

  • What are your beliefs about money? What has your life experience taught you about money? Are you scared of having no money? Have you had so much that you’ve never had to be self-reliant or competent in any way?
  • What are your beliefs about money and success? Do you think people who succeed are ruthless or arrogant? How comfortable are you about earning more and achieving more than anyone else in your family? How would becoming a success in your own terms impact your current life and those around you (think beyond the obvious here)?
  • Are you making good money but find that it does not make you feel fulfilled? Are you afraid to risk failure to do something you really want deep down? Do you feel your worth is determined by how much money you have?
  • Do you want to do everything yourself? Do you ever allow others to help you? Do you feel more competent than those around you? Alternatively, are you completely dependent on others for your material support and lazy about doing things for yourself?

Being aware of how you think and what you believe to be true, helps you to understand why you may not, subconsciously, want success.Knowledge of yourself and your belief systems is key to changing your experience of yourself and the world you live in. If you are destined to be successful here are some things that you may encounter out in the world:

  • Others are threatened by your success or your focus on success, discouraging you from going for your goals either by saying so outright or by subtler means.
  • You will encounter obstacles in your pursuit of success. How you deal with those obstacles ultimately determines your success or failure.  Don’t give up!
  • You will fail, and you may fail again after you succeed… this is how you learn what not to do, this is how you become a master of success and achieving the results you want.  Don’t give up!
  • Waiting for the right set of circumstances before you take action… There will always be a reason not to take action.  Stop making excuses and take the first step, progress one step at a time.

So please tell me, do you think it is your Life Purpose to be successful? Are any of the experiences I’ve mentioned above true for you? Tell me your stories.I am really interested!!! I will leave you with one last thought “Being a success is not instant and it is not without effort!

But that is the whole point – we never value things we haven’t had to work for anyway…”

Have a beautiful day!

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Helen Evans is a non-predictive life purpose hand analyst and purposeful space designer.Her passion is to empower individuals to fulfil their dreams, entrepreneurial, spiritual and personal… to be paid for what they love to do, to live and work in spaces that make them feel good and to take care of themselves and their well-being.  She uses the pragmatism of her African upbringing and the deep intuition of her Celtic roots to guide her clients into the lives they really want.

If you’d like to know more about stepping out of your cave and into your light, please visit

www.stepintoyourlight.com
or
contact Helen direct at
info@stepintoyourlight.com.

 

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Are you hiding out?

It feels so nice and safe to hide out… I love it! At least I think IRotten tomatoes? do… hmmm….? Do you hide out? Keep a low profile? Careful not to raise your head above any line that may make you stand out in some way? Truly amazing how desperate we all are to be approved of, to be liked, to fit in. And yet… there is a cry deep within our souls that asks so much more of us. It can feel anything like a vague sense of discomfort, a niggle, all the way to feeling physically trapped, powerless, desperate. What does it feel like for you?

There are so many reasons that each and everyone of us hide out.  A common one is what Richard Unger calls “tomato fear”, in other words fear of people throwing tomatoes at us, which is fundamentally the same as being criticised or rejected.  The idea of being rejected… aaahhhh!!! Too painful for words… but I’m developing strategies for coping with that!

Recent research shows that we naturally tend to look to  the negative in any given situation because it is a primal instinct. We naturally feel safe with people who are pro us and so we can feel safe enough to ignore them, but the moment we sense something other than positive vibes towards us, the primitive part of our brain goes on high alert – danger! So we are wired to keep ourselves safe, and the best way to do that is not to get noticed, to avoid any form of confrontation.

We have this primitive part of ourselves and a higher self, a soul calling us forth to fulfil our life purposes, and they are pulling in opposite directions. Part of our purpose is to become conscious of the things we do on autopilot. Autopilot tends to be our primitive self controlling our actions, but once we become conscious of what we are doing and why we are doing it we can change our behaviour and the results we get.

So take your first step into your light and think about what you are doing… Are you allowing yourself to feel your emotions, even the ucky ones or are you burying them inside yourself pretending you don’t feel anything? Are you keeping what you think to yourself in fear of being criticised or mocked? Are you avoiding taking any action in case it’s the “wrong” action or are you scared that taking one path will prevent you trying another so it is easier just to stay still? Are you sacrificing what you want just to keep the peace? Are you taking care of everyone else and forgetting about yourself?

Your first step is simply to notice what you are doing… and DO NOT beat yourself up about it.  We all do it.  We all have to start by noticing what we’re doing and then in our own time, in baby steps, take a few chances and act in a way that is more true to who we really are.

It is our collective purpose to experience as much as we can, do everything we do with love and live our life purposes. It seems to be humanity’s purpose to develop self-esteem, to learn to value ourselves for who we really are, and the individuality of those around us. On top of that each one of us has an individual purpose that we are being led toward throughout our lives.  Still don’t know what your purpose is? Don’t worry, you’re not unusual.  There are ways to discover it…  I personally love the simple, easy map lying in your hands but there are other ways too.

Purpose hint:

if you are avoiding doing something as hard as you can (hiding out) then in all likelihood the thing you’re avoiding is part of your life purpose.  Our life purposes calls us to get out of our comfort zones, to have new experiences, personally and out in the world, to live!

This article is as much for me as it is for you.  Fear of failure has held me hostage for so many years.  I am so fed up with it that I am taking, and have taken, steps to move into the life

I really want.  This blog is part of my way of stepping into my light.

I’d really love to hear about what keeps you in hiding, what holds you back, what you fear, or simply your experiences of trying to come out of hiding and how they felt…

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Helen Evans is a non-predictive life purpose hand analyst and purposeful space designer.   Her passion is to empower individuals to fulfil their dreams, entrepreneurial, spiritual and personal… to be paid for what they love to do, to live and work in spaces that make them feel good and to take care of themselves and their well-being.  She uses the pragmatism of her African upbringing and the deep intuition of her Celtic roots to guide her clients into the lives they really want.

If you’d like to know more about stepping out of your cave and into your light, please visit

www.stepintoyourlight.com
or
contact Helen direct at
info@stepintoyourlight.com.

 

To discover your soul’s blueprint for building your purpose inspired life, ask for a hand analysis reading!

3 steps to getting unstuck

Most of the people I speak to aren’t satisfied with their lives… it’s as if the dreams they had as children, teenagers or young adults were just that, dreams.

They feel as if life is fairly hum-drum and can’t imagine how they might live a different life. A life they love.  A life that makes them want to get up in the morning. A life that makes them feel as if they are living with a purpose, a reason for being.

Well, the world is changing and more and more of us are being called to WAKE UP! Wake up to your purpose.  Wake up to your role in changing the world we live in, changing it for the better for all of us. Those of us who are not listening to the calls to wake up and refocus our lives to fulfil our purpose will keep encountering hurdles and difficulties, things will keep going “wrong” for us…

We may have  good intentions but somehow something always seems to get in the way… not facing that “something” is what is keeping you stuck.  Toward the end of this article

I’ll give you a tip on how you can quickly figure out what is holding you back from living your life purpose… a life where you feelfulfilled and excited!

Here are 3 steps to getting out of your rut and back on the road that is your unique life purpose:

1. Remember what your dreams were.What did you want to do? Who did you want to be? Ignore how realistic those dreams were, just remember them and how they made you feel.  That is the feeling you need to get back, and you can!!

2. Think about those dreams of yours and what stopped you following them? Each time your life diverted away from your dreams what happened, what were you faced with, that made you turn away from them? Look for underlying similarities to these events… things like not believing you deserved what you wanted, feeling unsupported, feeling out of control, other people’s opinions, fear of success, fear of failure.  You will more than likely start to notice a trend whenever you encounter a “hurdle” in your life and this trend is likely to be a very big clue to your life lesson (more about that later).

3. Take some quiet time each day (10 minutes is fine) and listen, listen with an open heart, to what your emotions and your heart are telling you, whether it is to take a certain job (or not), take a trip or simply to be kinder to your mother!Put your logic aside for a while and truly listen to your heart, follow its advice, and as you learn to listen to how you feel about things, taking those feelings into consideration before you act, so you will start to steer your life closer to your true purpose.  Remember that your soul speaks to you through your heart!

Make the outcome of these 3 steps part of your everyday life. Remember how you felt when you truly dreamed and start to dream again (no practical, logical stuff allowed, just dream of possibilities). Whenever you come up against a choice or a hurdle use the awareness you gained from step 2 to re-look at the choice or hurdle you are being offered. I hope that awareness will help you not to slip into autopilot copying the actions you have taken in the past. And then, the most important of all, take time to listen to your heart whenever you can, listen to how you feel and act based on how you feel.  More importantly though never make any choice again without listening to your heart… if it doesn’t feel “right” no matter how right it looks logically or on paper then don’t do it.  It isn’t your purpose.  Trust your soul.  Trust your heart.  It knows what is best for you. Okay, I promised you a quick tip earlier and here it is.  Get a Life Purpose hand analysis reading!  I am constantly stunned by the impact the information left in people’s hands by their soul, has on them, thus I am passionate about this being a tool for each of us to save years and years of looking, searching and angst! With a set of handprints from you I can tell you what your life purpose is (amazing, huh?!), but there is even a bonus, I can tell you what keeps getting in your way (your Life Lesson) and the skill set you are here to learn so that you can achieve your life purpose.  In fact a full hand analysis reading can supply you with a blue print of what you need to build the life of your dreams…

If you’d like to know more please go to my website

 www.stepintoyourlight.com.

Amaterasu – don’t hide your light!

Amaterasu Amaterasu is the Japanese sun goddess, radiant, warm and compassionate.  She is the one who shows people their beauty and potential. The short version of the story is that she was so angry with her brother the storm god that in protest she shut herself in a cave and sealed it shut with a giant rock. As a result, the world was consumed with darkness. But the darkness within the cave was nothing compared to the darkness outside the cave. The people had lost their radiant mother and sat huddled in their homes, listless and hopeless. Without her light in the kingdom, they could not see their own strength and so had lost the will to go on. The world began to wither and die. In her headlong flight to the cave, she had lost her ability to see clearly… her light was truly dimmed.  She only eventually agreed to come out of her cave when she saw her reflection in a mirror. She’d never seen herself before and when she caught her reflection, she forgot her pain and fear, transfixed by her own radiance.

Are you hiding out in your cave? Have you ever really looked in a mirror and seen your true radiance? Are you depriving us of your light, making our world a duller place?

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