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Struggling to Write…

Do you look at all these people blogging, self-publishing books, sending ezines and posting their stuff on social media and wonder…

How do they do it?

OR perhaps “Why” do they do it?

A number of people have suggested I “write” and recently a friend posted on Facebook “Helen.

I really like your [Facebook] page. Great to see you, Danny and children the other evening. Thank you for a lovely eve. I left, feeling inspired. You really have a lot of knowledge, regarding the human condition, and I feel strongly this is an area you should explore. You’d make a great therapist, and the more I hear you speak, I am CONVINCED you are a WRITER!!!!………… xxxx

This got me thinking about how much I struggle to write about the things that people seem to want to hear about…come and chat with me and I’ll share anything with you, but write it down…aaahhhh!!

Perhaps you are one of those prolific writers that amaze me, OR are you more like me? Do you struggle to move how you feel, your true wisdom, into the written word?

Give me a subject you’re interested in… Give me a problem you want to solve… and I will share anything with you if you let me talk WITH you, talk and listen, listen and talk.

So why not just talk and not bother with writing?

Or in my case “trying” to write… :)

My reasons are:

  1. I have an enormous desire to make a huge difference in people’s lives… to do that I need to get my message out into the world, people need to see me, hear me and understand who I am and what I can offer them. (And now the panic sets in…)
  2. I want to grow, personally; to grow in knowledge, love and Spirit… to do that I need to put myself into positions where I have to face my fears and develop the resources to overcome my challenges. (Going into business on your own is the modern equivalent of putting yourself into a convent or monastery in the old days. It will bring up every one of your issues and force you to grow more deeply and greatly than you ever thought you could…)

Both these things can happen if I just talked to people, but there is something deep within me driving me to reach ever wider and larger audiences (while the other part of me is freaking out and doing its best to keep me in hibernation… so much safer!)

What makes you want to write or speak up? (What is driving you?)
What brings on writer’s block for you? (What makes you want to hide out?)

I respectfully suggest your internal rhetoric that stops you,  may well sound very similar to mine.  Here’s are the hurdles that hold me back from just pouring my thoughts and insights out onto a page regularly:

  1. I struggle with all this “window dressing”, much of what appears to be superfluous, inauthentic “clap trap”, and I think a lot of people I know do too. (Here I am judging based on my values of transparency/ authenticity/ being real, respect for others space and time so feeling its important only to put in front of them what is genuinely helpful to them.)
  2. I struggle to OWN the value I do provide. Do I really know what I’m talking about? Who says? (Here we have some childhood beliefs kicking in, e.g. “It’s bad to brag”, “Who do you think you are?”)
  3. The things I don’t do that I think I should, get more “air time” in my head, focusing me on what I’m not good at rather than what I am good at. (Here we have patterns of thinking or habit loops kicking in that formulated in childhood, exacerbated by school!)
  4. What if I upset someone? (And here we have the most primal of instincts kicking in, e.g. rejection from the tribe used to mean death so we do everything we can to avoid rejection or even the potential for rejection.)

Has your rational mind been answering my concerns as you read them? Of course. I know a lot of it is nonsense and the more aware I am of how my mind is working the more able I am to move through these challenges…

So again I ask you, why do you want to write? And what’s holding you back? What’s stopping you really revealing your truth? What is your message for us?

 

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Helen Elizabeth Evans is the UK’s premier life purpose fingerprint analyst, and Your Signature Brilliance Decoder. She has appeared on Channel 5 TV and been featured The Daily Mirror, Women
magazine, Spirit & Destiny magazine and Soul & Spirit magazine. She is a non-predictive life purpose hand analyst, Master NLP Practitioner, astrologer and purposeful space designer.

Her passion is to get the world to stop seeing themselves through the limits imposed by their experiences and conditioning, to both, see and live according to the true spirit that lies within them. Doing so empowers individuals to fulfil their dreams, entrepreneurial, spiritual and personal… to be paid for what they love to do, to live and work in spaces that make them feel good and to take care of themselves and their well-being.  She uses the pragmatism of her African upbringing and the deep intuition of her Celtic roots to guide her clients into the lives they were born to live. If you’d like to know more about stepping out of your cave and into your light, experiencing the confidence to really SHINE as you, then please visit www.stepintoyourlight.com or contact Helen direct at info@stepintoyourlight.com.
To discover your soul’s blueprint for building your purpose inspired life, ask for a life purpose fingerprint analysis!

Are you hiding out?

It feels so nice and safe to hide out… I love it! At least I think IRotten tomatoes? do… hmmm….? Do you hide out? Keep a low profile? Careful not to raise your head above any line that may make you stand out in some way? Truly amazing how desperate we all are to be approved of, to be liked, to fit in. And yet… there is a cry deep within our souls that asks so much more of us. It can feel anything like a vague sense of discomfort, a niggle, all the way to feeling physically trapped, powerless, desperate. What does it feel like for you?

There are so many reasons that each and everyone of us hide out.  A common one is what Richard Unger calls “tomato fear”, in other words fear of people throwing tomatoes at us, which is fundamentally the same as being criticised or rejected.  The idea of being rejected… aaahhhh!!! Too painful for words… but I’m developing strategies for coping with that!

Recent research shows that we naturally tend to look to  the negative in any given situation because it is a primal instinct. We naturally feel safe with people who are pro us and so we can feel safe enough to ignore them, but the moment we sense something other than positive vibes towards us, the primitive part of our brain goes on high alert – danger! So we are wired to keep ourselves safe, and the best way to do that is not to get noticed, to avoid any form of confrontation.

We have this primitive part of ourselves and a higher self, a soul calling us forth to fulfil our life purposes, and they are pulling in opposite directions. Part of our purpose is to become conscious of the things we do on autopilot. Autopilot tends to be our primitive self controlling our actions, but once we become conscious of what we are doing and why we are doing it we can change our behaviour and the results we get.

So take your first step into your light and think about what you are doing… Are you allowing yourself to feel your emotions, even the ucky ones or are you burying them inside yourself pretending you don’t feel anything? Are you keeping what you think to yourself in fear of being criticised or mocked? Are you avoiding taking any action in case it’s the “wrong” action or are you scared that taking one path will prevent you trying another so it is easier just to stay still? Are you sacrificing what you want just to keep the peace? Are you taking care of everyone else and forgetting about yourself?

Your first step is simply to notice what you are doing… and DO NOT beat yourself up about it.  We all do it.  We all have to start by noticing what we’re doing and then in our own time, in baby steps, take a few chances and act in a way that is more true to who we really are.

It is our collective purpose to experience as much as we can, do everything we do with love and live our life purposes. It seems to be humanity’s purpose to develop self-esteem, to learn to value ourselves for who we really are, and the individuality of those around us. On top of that each one of us has an individual purpose that we are being led toward throughout our lives.  Still don’t know what your purpose is? Don’t worry, you’re not unusual.  There are ways to discover it…  I personally love the simple, easy map lying in your hands but there are other ways too.

Purpose hint:

if you are avoiding doing something as hard as you can (hiding out) then in all likelihood the thing you’re avoiding is part of your life purpose.  Our life purposes calls us to get out of our comfort zones, to have new experiences, personally and out in the world, to live!

This article is as much for me as it is for you.  Fear of failure has held me hostage for so many years.  I am so fed up with it that I am taking, and have taken, steps to move into the life

I really want.  This blog is part of my way of stepping into my light.

I’d really love to hear about what keeps you in hiding, what holds you back, what you fear, or simply your experiences of trying to come out of hiding and how they felt…

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Helen Evans is a non-predictive life purpose hand analyst and purposeful space designer.   Her passion is to empower individuals to fulfil their dreams, entrepreneurial, spiritual and personal… to be paid for what they love to do, to live and work in spaces that make them feel good and to take care of themselves and their well-being.  She uses the pragmatism of her African upbringing and the deep intuition of her Celtic roots to guide her clients into the lives they really want.

If you’d like to know more about stepping out of your cave and into your light, please visit

www.stepintoyourlight.com
or
contact Helen direct at
info@stepintoyourlight.com.

 

To discover your soul’s blueprint for building your purpose inspired life, ask for a hand analysis reading!

Amaterasu – don’t hide your light!

Amaterasu Amaterasu is the Japanese sun goddess, radiant, warm and compassionate.  She is the one who shows people their beauty and potential. The short version of the story is that she was so angry with her brother the storm god that in protest she shut herself in a cave and sealed it shut with a giant rock. As a result, the world was consumed with darkness. But the darkness within the cave was nothing compared to the darkness outside the cave. The people had lost their radiant mother and sat huddled in their homes, listless and hopeless. Without her light in the kingdom, they could not see their own strength and so had lost the will to go on. The world began to wither and die. In her headlong flight to the cave, she had lost her ability to see clearly… her light was truly dimmed.  She only eventually agreed to come out of her cave when she saw her reflection in a mirror. She’d never seen herself before and when she caught her reflection, she forgot her pain and fear, transfixed by her own radiance.

Are you hiding out in your cave? Have you ever really looked in a mirror and seen your true radiance? Are you depriving us of your light, making our world a duller place?

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