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Struggling to Write…

Do you look at all these people blogging, self-publishing books, sending ezines and posting their stuff on social media and wonder…

How do they do it?

OR perhaps “Why” do they do it?

A number of people have suggested I “write” and recently a friend posted on Facebook “Helen.

I really like your [Facebook] page. Great to see you, Danny and children the other evening. Thank you for a lovely eve. I left, feeling inspired. You really have a lot of knowledge, regarding the human condition, and I feel strongly this is an area you should explore. You’d make a great therapist, and the more I hear you speak, I am CONVINCED you are a WRITER!!!!………… xxxx

This got me thinking about how much I struggle to write about the things that people seem to want to hear about…come and chat with me and I’ll share anything with you, but write it down…aaahhhh!!

Perhaps you are one of those prolific writers that amaze me, OR are you more like me? Do you struggle to move how you feel, your true wisdom, into the written word?

Give me a subject you’re interested in… Give me a problem you want to solve… and I will share anything with you if you let me talk WITH you, talk and listen, listen and talk.

So why not just talk and not bother with writing?

Or in my case “trying” to write… :)

My reasons are:

  1. I have an enormous desire to make a huge difference in people’s lives… to do that I need to get my message out into the world, people need to see me, hear me and understand who I am and what I can offer them. (And now the panic sets in…)
  2. I want to grow, personally; to grow in knowledge, love and Spirit… to do that I need to put myself into positions where I have to face my fears and develop the resources to overcome my challenges. (Going into business on your own is the modern equivalent of putting yourself into a convent or monastery in the old days. It will bring up every one of your issues and force you to grow more deeply and greatly than you ever thought you could…)

Both these things can happen if I just talked to people, but there is something deep within me driving me to reach ever wider and larger audiences (while the other part of me is freaking out and doing its best to keep me in hibernation… so much safer!)

What makes you want to write or speak up? (What is driving you?)
What brings on writer’s block for you? (What makes you want to hide out?)

I respectfully suggest your internal rhetoric that stops you,  may well sound very similar to mine.  Here’s are the hurdles that hold me back from just pouring my thoughts and insights out onto a page regularly:

  1. I struggle with all this “window dressing”, much of what appears to be superfluous, inauthentic “clap trap”, and I think a lot of people I know do too. (Here I am judging based on my values of transparency/ authenticity/ being real, respect for others space and time so feeling its important only to put in front of them what is genuinely helpful to them.)
  2. I struggle to OWN the value I do provide. Do I really know what I’m talking about? Who says? (Here we have some childhood beliefs kicking in, e.g. “It’s bad to brag”, “Who do you think you are?”)
  3. The things I don’t do that I think I should, get more “air time” in my head, focusing me on what I’m not good at rather than what I am good at. (Here we have patterns of thinking or habit loops kicking in that formulated in childhood, exacerbated by school!)
  4. What if I upset someone? (And here we have the most primal of instincts kicking in, e.g. rejection from the tribe used to mean death so we do everything we can to avoid rejection or even the potential for rejection.)

Has your rational mind been answering my concerns as you read them? Of course. I know a lot of it is nonsense and the more aware I am of how my mind is working the more able I am to move through these challenges…

So again I ask you, why do you want to write? And what’s holding you back? What’s stopping you really revealing your truth? What is your message for us?

 

Join me online, sharing AUDIBLY – Tuesday 26th February 2013

 

If you’d like to connect more regularly please do connect with me on Facebook (which is where I hang out most days) via my personal page Step Into Your
Light
(inspirational, my life philosopy) or Your Life Purpose is in Your Fingerprints (specific to fingerprint analysis and life purpose).

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Helen Elizabeth Evans is the UK’s premier life purpose fingerprint analyst, and Your Signature Brilliance Decoder. She has appeared on Channel 5 TV and been featured The Daily Mirror, Women
magazine, Spirit & Destiny magazine and Soul & Spirit magazine. She is a non-predictive life purpose hand analyst, Master NLP Practitioner, astrologer and purposeful space designer.

Her passion is to get the world to stop seeing themselves through the limits imposed by their experiences and conditioning, to both, see and live according to the true spirit that lies within them. Doing so empowers individuals to fulfil their dreams, entrepreneurial, spiritual and personal… to be paid for what they love to do, to live and work in spaces that make them feel good and to take care of themselves and their well-being.  She uses the pragmatism of her African upbringing and the deep intuition of her Celtic roots to guide her clients into the lives they were born to live. If you’d like to know more about stepping out of your cave and into your light, experiencing the confidence to really SHINE as you, then please visit www.stepintoyourlight.com or contact Helen direct at info@stepintoyourlight.com.
To discover your soul’s blueprint for building your purpose inspired life, ask for a life purpose fingerprint analysis!

Selling: Being OK with Others Selling!

The way most of us feel…

When I started my search in earnest I was very open to what people were offering as solutions. Certainly the way they were pitched grabbed my interest and it sounded like their offerings were exactly what I wanted and needed.

The result? I made some very expensive mistakes!
I felt very naive and taken advantage of…

The biggest problem was that I stopped feeling I could trust me to know what was a good investment and what wasn’t, so the moment there are any signs of someone pitching me their business my subconscious throws up warning bells of “Get out of here! We’re in danger!!”


It makes me want to run!!!

I hated feeling like that!

I can’t change them making offers. What I can change is how I feel about it…

Life is about giving and receiving, buying and selling. It is how the world works and I have found that being angry with people who try to sell to me in the hundreds of ways out there, limits me, not them. The walls in me go up to keep them out but that also tends to keep me in, limiting my ability to receive – whatever the context.  So NOT the way I want to be.

So what has changed for me in terms of how I feel about other people selling to me and in terms of selling my own stuff?

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Purpose & Enlightenment Through Laughter

Laugh!

I’ve just got off the phone with a good friend who makes me laugh and laugh, until my sides hurt. Do you have any friends who help you do that?

It truly is the best medicine in the world. It’s God’s own energy.

This friend is marked to be a world-renowned spiritual teacher. He has experienced the worst that life has to offer in so many ways but he has the energy of a phoenix and chooses to rise from his life’s ashes stronger, more enlightened and more on purpose than before.

Laughter raises our vibration, it allows us to rise up from our ashes and fly. It’s the wind beneath our wings.

We are taught directly and indirectly that we need to be serious, to take life seriously, to take our jobs seriously. We are taught that to be responsible we need to be serious, that laughter about anything serious is irreverant and irresponsible. But, for those of us who are naturally responsible and serious, for those of us who have experienced enormous pain and difficulty in life, this additional emphasis can lead to us becoming very down-hearted and even depressed. We take ourselves and our experiences so seriously. (Stick with me,

I’m not suggesting they aren’t).

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Life Purpose: Discovery Is Not Enough!

So now you know your life purpose… what are you doing with it? How are you using it to move from where you are to where you want to be?

When you finally discovered what your life purpose was it felt so exciting (or did it feel disappointing?), and then you got home and the fear kicked in… it’s too much, too overwhelming…there is no way this is me… nice fantasy but far safer to pretend than to actually move towards it… I’d need to change my job to do that but I can’t,

I need the money…  I don’t have the time to take all that on… and so on.  What do you say to yourself? What are the reasons you don’t embrace your life purpose?

The following is one of my favourite quotes of all time…

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Your Health: Clues in Hand Analysis

You’re a grown up. You know what it takes to be healthy, don’t you? Sleep enough, eat the right foods in appropriate quantities and do at least 30 minutes of exercise once a day, right? So. Do you? If not, why not? Are you so wrapped up in what is going on in your head or in how you are feeling about something that you are on autopilot regarding your body? Lets get really clear about something.This is the vehicle you have chosen for your life. You are not going to get another one. This is it. No body equals no life, certainly not in any physical sense.

So why the heck do you ignore it’s needs? Well, the answer probably lies in your hands… here are a couple of examples: Read the rest of this entry »

Saturn goes retrograde in Libra: How is this relevant to you?

With whatever you are creating at this moment in time and for the next 6+ months, a new product, a new programme, a new series of art, a book, a new relationship, are you expressing your authentic self? What about the things you’ve already created, the relationships you are already experiencing, do they reflect your inner core, your true soul? Read the rest of this entry »

Criticism: How to deal with it

Don’t you absolutely hate it when someone offers you their unsought for critical opinion?! They think they’re only doing it for your own good…, they’re “helping” you. Yeah, right!. Even if you do ask for someone’s opinion, receiving a negative response is less than pleasant.Sometimes it becomes a lot easier to quietly go about you business, not sharing what you’ve been up to and generally being very private about your life. At least that way you don’t have to experience that tightness in your chest or the need to really suck in your breath when some well meaning (or not) person has something unhelpful to say…

Others of us retreat into ourselves becoming less and less confident to try things, buying into the constant criticism we’ve been surrounded by most of our lives, convinced we are not special and have nothing to offer.

Some of us feel the need to make excuses for whatever is being criticised, or to criticise the other person in return… No one likes to be criticised!

The first thing that is helpful to know is that  we are hard wired with survival instincts, so our basic instinct is to look for anything that doesn’t fit into what we know as “safe”. We subconsciously interpret anything different or unusual to that which we expect as a potential “danger”. So we are hard wired to be critical or negative, to figure out what is missing, what is still needed to make something ideal.

It takes conscious intention to retrain the way you think, to start to see your and another person’s “cup” as half full rather than half-empty. In otherwords it is all about perception, how you look at life and what you choose to expect from life.

Here is a simple system for approaching criticism in your life.

  1. Stop all that negative self-talk in your head. Whenever your critical voice starts up, lift your tongue upto the roof of your mouth, bizarrely enough this stops the talk instantaneously.You can then consciously choose to find something positive to say to yourself.If you don’t like you, you will emanate the feeling and attract criticism.
  2. Do not ask for another person’s opinion. Does my bum look big in this?How do you like my new haircut? Do you think they’ll like it? Or whatever else are you favourite ways of asking for criticism. All that matters is DO YOU LIKE IT?If you don’t thenstop wallowing in what you don’t like and change it, but if you do then really love it and send other people’s negative opinions to hell where the belong. [I find it helpful to imagine putting the negative words into an envelope and watching it fly off into the fires of hell and burn to ash. Amazing how cathartic little imaginations like that can be!]
  3. Don’t  judge other people.  Don’t criticise other people. No one else knows what another person’s experiences are, nor what their real difficulties are. We are each here to grow into deeper, more loving souls and sometimes we face enormous challenges on our path. Do not judge or criticise others for how they face those challenges.Approach others and their challenges, the things they get “wrong”, with an understanding heart. It will take time for people to get used to the new you but persevere and their respect for you will grow, and so will your respect for yourself. If you rarely have a negative opinion about another it is less likely they’ll have one about you. People always criticise most that which they feel threatened by…
  4. What to do when people offer their opinion sunsolicited. First, remember that all people spend 99.9% of their time thinking about themselves, so when they do think about you it will be for a very brief time and in no time at all, all critical thoughts about you will have left their minds and they’ll be thinking about something else entirely. So essentially their thoughts about you are irrelevant. Secondly, what others think about you is none of your business as the saying goes. What this means is that whatever they have to say only takes on relevance when you empower it by believing it, so politely thank them for their opinion and then ignore what they said.
  5. Give and receive appropriate feedback when required.Sometimes it is helpful to listen to others people’s thoughts but there is away to provide those thoughts and a way to listen to them. Firstly, when you offer a person some kind of feedback that you think is really important for them always be positive. Look at what they do that is great and tell them, then offer them your suggestion (feedback) in a way they can take it or leave it,that is a way that empowers them to choose to receive your feedback or not, and then offer them some follow-up praise or positive comments to remind them that really the positive is what is key. Then, when you are offered appropriate feedback or in some cases feedback poorly delivered but possibly relevant take the time to hear what they say without your emotions kicking in. See if there is anything useful in what they have offered, anything that you agree with or possibly gives you a different perspective. Any aspect you agree with make a commitment to yourself to change and then let the rest go, and move on.

Live your

life with gratitude, consciously start to look around you for all the things to be grateful for… your healthy body, your beautiful eyes, the food on the table, the fact that you have a job (even if its not your dream job, you at least have one)… it will amaze you how life starts to feel so much better. You start to notice all the good things around you, the birds happily chirping in the trees, the first flower in your garden after the long winter, the way the light falls through your living room window. Every moment you are able to experience this type of consciousness will change your energetic vibration, it will raise it, and your energy will flow more easily.

Fundamentally, the vibe emanating from you will change and you will, without even trying attract the things that respond to that level of vibration, that is, good things, happy things! When we feel low or are self-critical it is we unknowingly invite others to criticise us by emanating a negative energy. It is just our demeanor. They can’t help themselves.

How is it some people seem to be completely unphased by criticism? What others have to say doesn’t bother them, they just get on with their lives doing as they please… of course, some of those people may well be plain rebellious but the ones I’m talking about are the ones where people say “He’s so confident. If we could just bottle that confidence…”.  What they mean is they wish they were like that person.

And NO we are not born with confidence and NO it is not too late to develop it… It’s called loving who you are, valuing who you are and who you are here to be, “warts” and all. Getting to this is for another blog and for some of us a lifetime’s work but you can start by trusting you are exactly who you are meant to be, a diamond in the raw with life slowly shaving off facets to reveal your true beauty to the world. Criticism from others is just words, empty and meaningless, and they will never have any effect over the diamond cutter.  All the diamond cutter does is look at the raw stone and shave whatever is relevant off to bring out the beauty of the stone…  other people’s opinions are specs of dust, wipe them away and your beauty is revealed facet by facet.

If you’d like to know who you are here to be and what steps you could take to speed up the work of your diamond cutter and bring yourself out in your true beauty can find me on Facebook or you visit my website or contact me direct (details below).
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Helen Evans is a non-predictive life purpose hand analyst, astrologer and purposeful space designer.   Her passion is to help others share their true selves with the world, empower individuals to fulfil their dreams, entrepreneurial, spiritual and personal… to be paid for what they love to do, to live and work in spaces that make them feel good and to take care of themselves and their well-being.  She uses the pragmatism of her African upbringing and the deep intuition of her Celtic roots to guide her clients into the lives they really want.

If you’d like to know more about stepping out of your cave and into your light, please visit www.stepintoyourlight.com or contact Helen direct at info@stepintoyourlight.com

To discover your soul’s blueprint for building your purpose inspired life, ask for a hand analysis reading!

Spiritually Emerging… Are you?

My big passion is to get people to step out of the caves they are hiding in and share their “light” (gifts, talents, purpose, authentic selves, soul energy) with the rest of us. So you may wonder why I’ve been hiding out for awhile recently (I’ve not updated this blog for some time)…?

Well, truth be known, I had to step back a little way into my cave to undergo an internal transition. This part of my cave feels like a chrysalis, a cocoon, a place of quiet transformation.  I needed to retreat into myself to allow it to take place unhindered by analysis.  I’ve been through periods of emergence before and have found simply letting things come, letting things be is what makes the process simpler and more effective for me, so it is almost as if I am allowing a process to take place within me without looking at it directly, without shining my light directly on it… thus my ego, my personality consciousness does not feel threatened by the changes taking place and doesn’t put up any walls to the change. Well in theory at any rate. I did have some hiccups along the way, of my own making, but I’m getting there… I am emerging again, this time I feel like the caterpillar who finally realised their purpose was to be a butterfly and needed to make a cocoon for that change to take place. I have emerged with wings but they are still really wet. I think it will take me a little time to let them dry, to feel just how big they might be, to understand their colours, to trust they are safe, to learn to fly and share my true beauty with the world…

So, what is all this wonderful picturesque analogy talk really about?

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Make a Decision: It is the source of your power

Many of us have lots of ideas about what the government should do, what our bosses should be doing, or how our friends should be raising their kids. But what about our own lives?

What ideas do we have about our own lives? Are we burying our heads in the sand, not looking at what we really want for ourselves? Perhaps you know exactly what you would like your life to be like, if so, what are you doing to create the life you want?

Most of us seem to be more comfortable to react to life or simply go along with whatever is thrown at us, never defining what we really want… ignoring the niggle at the back of our minds, the slight ache in our hearts… So what would happen if you did acknowledge your deepest dream, if you did look at what you really wanted?

Imagine you look at what you want full on, first your dream for yourself and your life starts to come into a proper focus, take on structure and definition, and you get a really good feeling thinking about how it would feel to live your life the way you want to, then… Read the rest of this entry »

What are you doing on Valentine’s Day?

Interesting how the date of the burial of a celibate martyred Roman Catholic priest has become synonymous with the celebration of romantic love…

Personally I don’t think it matters what the origins of a tradition are, what matters is what that tradition means for people today. What you choose to do today will indicate what the day means for you… so what are you doing today? Do let me know!

What does Valentine’s Day mean for you? 

How do you feel about it?

When I was a young girl Valentine’s Day was so exciting, it was all about the hope of love and there is nothing more exciting to a teenage girl! As the years have gone by my feelings for the day have varied… the years when I was not in a relationship and didn’t get any cards or gifts were so traumatic and lonely, really bad for my self-esteem… the years where I had someone to celebrate with have had such lovely moments, but all in all, I’ve realised that I don’t like the “pressure” associated with  St Valentine’s Day these days.

I want the day to be about love in general, especially the pure hearted, unconditional love that we humans are far more capable of than we realise.  I want Valentine’s Day to be about opening our hearts to ourselves and those around us.[When I say opening our hearts I do not mean opening our wallets! :)]

So many of us are so busy judging ourselves by our society’s expectations that our individuality means we are constantly coming up short and this is not good for our self-esteem so start today, Valentine’s Day, by showing yourself some love.

Do something you love, spend time with people you love and make sure everything you say about yourself and everything you think in your head about yourself is positive!  You cannot truly love another until you love yourself, warts and all!

Let me know how you showed yourself love today! [You can keep the naughty info to yourself!:)]

Today I am going to take the time to remind myself of all the activities I love to do, the places I love to go, how much I love my pussy cats [the black one is going blind!! :( ], the things I love in my home but most of all I’m going to focus on all the love there is between my husband, myself and our children. For me today is going to be about being grateful for all the love I have to give and all the love that is given to me.

As Valentine’s Day and Chinese New Year are coinciding this year, love and gratitude, seem to be a pretty amazing way to start the year of Tiger! GRRRRR!

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