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What happens when you face your fears and let go?

Are you stuck? Are you struggling to get different results in your life and business? Are you holding onto something, someone or somewhere? Does the idea of letting your home, your job, your partner, your family give you a tight, uncomfortable feeling in your chest?

I get it. The younger version of me was willing to travel alone to a strange country, settle there and make a life for herself… Things change. I have so much more to “lose” now, and I’ve become somewhat “risk averse”, a.k.a stuck in my fear of making the changes I need to.

The fact that my husband and kids don’t like change either does not help! It’s like pushing a boulder uphill all by yourself while they either stand there and tell you how ridiculous you are (because anything different to what they know is scary) or stand in your way so you’re balancing the boulder while trying to peer around it to find a way around them and get it up the hill. You have to be pretty committed to do that and that takes energy and A LOT of self-belief.

I have a little personal story for you that I hope will encourage you to reassess what is blocking you, where you need to make some changes and give you the determination to go for it!

Last time I posted we were about to commit to the sale of the apartment we’d lived in for over 20 years… We loved that apartment. Not only was it the kind of place people always commented on as being lovely, but it’s location was just perfect for us. On a personal level my husband and I had our whole history together in that apartment AND our daughter was born there too! We knew and liked the neighbours, the kids schools were close by… so many reasons to keep things the same!

So why did we need to move? We had a huge living room but both my husband and I work from home so our living room was for everything including both our desks! We have a son (age 13 at the time) and a daughter (age 7 at the time) and they were sharing a room and beginning to fight a lot, trying to establish their territory and get some kind of personal space for themselves. We had to move. We were all trapped, we all needed more space…

Ultimately the pain was outweighing the pleasure… So with trepidation and heavy hearts we signed the documents to sell the home that was special to us. There was no going back. We then went searching for a house. We couldn’t find anything in the area we thought we wanted to be and time was getting short before we had to be out of our apartment so we started looking a little further out than we’d originally wanted to. The choices of houses were better but given that it was winter the selection was limited. Eventually we picked one. It didn’t particularly inspire either of us but it ticked our criteria and we made an offer.

Of course there was another buyer! And so, they counter offered, then we counter offered, then they counter offered and so it went… luckily their top offer for the property was less than ours so we got the house. The fact that it was difficult to get may make you think “If it was difficult that was a sign it wasn’t meant to be”, but the fact it was difficult was right for us because during that process we really had to move from “It’s a house that ticks all our boxes even if it isn’t great” to “We want the house!” We had to commit to the house.

Our home - Christmas 2013

Our home – Christmas 2013

 

So we exchanged contracts on the new house  in October and arranged to leave our apartment in Kensington, which we loved, on Friday January 31st to move into this house that didn’t feel like us, in an unknown area in west London. We’d made the commitment theoretically but we were all concerned we’d made a mistake so we continued to enjoy living in our apartment acting as if nothing was going to change, and then it was close to moving date and we suddenly had to take action to move.

An empty apartment...

31st Jan 2014 – An empty apartment…

 

So we exchanged contracts on the new house  in October and arranged to leave our apartment in Kensington, which we loved, on Friday January 31st to move into this house that didn’t feel like us, in an unknown area in west London. We’d made the commitment theoretically but we were all concerned we’d made a mistake so we continued to enjoy living in our apartment acting as if nothing was going to change, and then it was close to moving date and we suddenly had to take action to move.

Before this happened I went to the new house as soon as we had the keys from the agent and met the movers there to supervise what went where. By the end of the day the house was pretty much set up with rugs and major furniture. It was another week before we had TV and internet but after only one night sleeping there it felt like home and it has been ever since.

We are thrilled we moved. We love the space. We love how much personal space we have. We even love having the builders in (they’ve been with us since 4 Feb doing various work that needs doing) as we put our own stamp on the house.

Fear of change. Fear of things not being as good as we have them. That is what keeps us stuck. That is what keeps us in a rut. That is what keeps us trapped. Our circumstances don’t do any of those things. It’s our fear of the unknown that stops us… and yet we finally made a massive change and it turns out, it was absolutely the right thing to do and we couldn’t be happier!

Here’s to you taking a leap of faith and making the changes you need to to get out of any rut or trap you find yourself in!

 


 

Helen Elizabeth Evans, Your Purpose-Driven-Business Mentor, is also the UK’s No. 1 Life Purpose Fingerprint Analyst. She has appeared on Channel 5 TV and been featured The Daily MirrorWomen magazineSpirit & Destiny magazine and Soul & Spirit magazine. She has 17 years experience running her own businesses and now uses that experience and non-predictive life purpose fingerprint analysis, to help her clients create businesses that are not only completely aligned with their life purpose but also make a difference in the world AND earn them a sustainable income.

You can find out more here: www.stepintoyourlight.com or contact Helen direct at info@stepintoyourlight.com.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Struggling to Write…

Do you look at all these people blogging, self-publishing books, sending ezines and posting their stuff on social media and wonder…

How do they do it?

OR perhaps “Why” do they do it?

A number of people have suggested I “write” and recently a friend posted on Facebook “Helen.

I really like your [Facebook] page. Great to see you, Danny and children the other evening. Thank you for a lovely eve. I left, feeling inspired. You really have a lot of knowledge, regarding the human condition, and I feel strongly this is an area you should explore. You’d make a great therapist, and the more I hear you speak, I am CONVINCED you are a WRITER!!!!………… xxxx

This got me thinking about how much I struggle to write about the things that people seem to want to hear about…come and chat with me and I’ll share anything with you, but write it down…aaahhhh!!

Perhaps you are one of those prolific writers that amaze me, OR are you more like me? Do you struggle to move how you feel, your true wisdom, into the written word?

Give me a subject you’re interested in… Give me a problem you want to solve… and I will share anything with you if you let me talk WITH you, talk and listen, listen and talk.

So why not just talk and not bother with writing?

Or in my case “trying” to write… :)

My reasons are:

  1. I have an enormous desire to make a huge difference in people’s lives… to do that I need to get my message out into the world, people need to see me, hear me and understand who I am and what I can offer them. (And now the panic sets in…)
  2. I want to grow, personally; to grow in knowledge, love and Spirit… to do that I need to put myself into positions where I have to face my fears and develop the resources to overcome my challenges. (Going into business on your own is the modern equivalent of putting yourself into a convent or monastery in the old days. It will bring up every one of your issues and force you to grow more deeply and greatly than you ever thought you could…)

Both these things can happen if I just talked to people, but there is something deep within me driving me to reach ever wider and larger audiences (while the other part of me is freaking out and doing its best to keep me in hibernation… so much safer!)

What makes you want to write or speak up? (What is driving you?)
What brings on writer’s block for you? (What makes you want to hide out?)

I respectfully suggest your internal rhetoric that stops you,  may well sound very similar to mine.  Here’s are the hurdles that hold me back from just pouring my thoughts and insights out onto a page regularly:

  1. I struggle with all this “window dressing”, much of what appears to be superfluous, inauthentic “clap trap”, and I think a lot of people I know do too. (Here I am judging based on my values of transparency/ authenticity/ being real, respect for others space and time so feeling its important only to put in front of them what is genuinely helpful to them.)
  2. I struggle to OWN the value I do provide. Do I really know what I’m talking about? Who says? (Here we have some childhood beliefs kicking in, e.g. “It’s bad to brag”, “Who do you think you are?”)
  3. The things I don’t do that I think I should, get more “air time” in my head, focusing me on what I’m not good at rather than what I am good at. (Here we have patterns of thinking or habit loops kicking in that formulated in childhood, exacerbated by school!)
  4. What if I upset someone? (And here we have the most primal of instincts kicking in, e.g. rejection from the tribe used to mean death so we do everything we can to avoid rejection or even the potential for rejection.)

Has your rational mind been answering my concerns as you read them? Of course. I know a lot of it is nonsense and the more aware I am of how my mind is working the more able I am to move through these challenges…

So again I ask you, why do you want to write? And what’s holding you back? What’s stopping you really revealing your truth? What is your message for us?

 

Join me online, sharing AUDIBLY – Tuesday 26th February 2013

 

If you’d like to connect more regularly please do connect with me on Facebook (which is where I hang out most days) via my personal page Step Into Your
Light
(inspirational, my life philosopy) or Your Life Purpose is in Your Fingerprints (specific to fingerprint analysis and life purpose).

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Helen Elizabeth Evans is the UK’s premier life purpose fingerprint analyst, and Your Signature Brilliance Decoder. She has appeared on Channel 5 TV and been featured The Daily Mirror, Women
magazine, Spirit & Destiny magazine and Soul & Spirit magazine. She is a non-predictive life purpose hand analyst, Master NLP Practitioner, astrologer and purposeful space designer.

Her passion is to get the world to stop seeing themselves through the limits imposed by their experiences and conditioning, to both, see and live according to the true spirit that lies within them. Doing so empowers individuals to fulfil their dreams, entrepreneurial, spiritual and personal… to be paid for what they love to do, to live and work in spaces that make them feel good and to take care of themselves and their well-being.  She uses the pragmatism of her African upbringing and the deep intuition of her Celtic roots to guide her clients into the lives they were born to live. If you’d like to know more about stepping out of your cave and into your light, experiencing the confidence to really SHINE as you, then please visit www.stepintoyourlight.com or contact Helen direct at info@stepintoyourlight.com.
To discover your soul’s blueprint for building your purpose inspired life, ask for a life purpose fingerprint analysis!

Selling: Being OK with Others Selling!

The way most of us feel…

When I started my search in earnest I was very open to what people were offering as solutions. Certainly the way they were pitched grabbed my interest and it sounded like their offerings were exactly what I wanted and needed.

The result? I made some very expensive mistakes!
I felt very naive and taken advantage of…

The biggest problem was that I stopped feeling I could trust me to know what was a good investment and what wasn’t, so the moment there are any signs of someone pitching me their business my subconscious throws up warning bells of “Get out of here! We’re in danger!!”


It makes me want to run!!!

I hated feeling like that!

I can’t change them making offers. What I can change is how I feel about it…

Life is about giving and receiving, buying and selling. It is how the world works and I have found that being angry with people who try to sell to me in the hundreds of ways out there, limits me, not them. The walls in me go up to keep them out but that also tends to keep me in, limiting my ability to receive – whatever the context.  So NOT the way I want to be.

So what has changed for me in terms of how I feel about other people selling to me and in terms of selling my own stuff?

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Easy Peasy Pancake Recipe for Pancake Day!

You will need:

2 eggs
110g (4oz) sifted flour (works really well with wheat

flour or standard gluten free flour)
200ml (7fl oz) milk
75ml of water
Pinch of salt
A knob of melted butter
50g (2oz) of butter for coating the pan (if you have a great non-stick pan you don’t need this)

Whisk eggs, milk, water, flour, salted and melted butter into a smooth batter.

Heat the pan on medium heat.

Lift pan from heat and add 3-4 Tbsps of batter all at once, rotating and tilting the pan to coat the entire surface.

Cook until almost dry on top and lightly browned around the edges.

Loosen with spatula and serve!

Serve with

whatever appeals to you…

I love cinnamon and sugar. (I use xylitol instread of sugar but its up to you!). Also popular is lemon and sugar OR

maple syrup.

Others like fillings like ham and cheese.

Enjoy!!

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Purpose & Enlightenment Through Laughter

Laugh!

I’ve just got off the phone with a good friend who makes me laugh and laugh, until my sides hurt. Do you have any friends who help you do that?

It truly is the best medicine in the world. It’s God’s own energy.

This friend is marked to be a world-renowned spiritual teacher. He has experienced the worst that life has to offer in so many ways but he has the energy of a phoenix and chooses to rise from his life’s ashes stronger, more enlightened and more on purpose than before.

Laughter raises our vibration, it allows us to rise up from our ashes and fly. It’s the wind beneath our wings.

We are taught directly and indirectly that we need to be serious, to take life seriously, to take our jobs seriously. We are taught that to be responsible we need to be serious, that laughter about anything serious is irreverant and irresponsible. But, for those of us who are naturally responsible and serious, for those of us who have experienced enormous pain and difficulty in life, this additional emphasis can lead to us becoming very down-hearted and even depressed. We take ourselves and our experiences so seriously. (Stick with me,

I’m not suggesting they aren’t).

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Life Purpose: Discovery Is Not Enough!

So now you know your life purpose… what are you doing with it? How are you using it to move from where you are to where you want to be?

When you finally discovered what your life purpose was it felt so exciting (or did it feel disappointing?), and then you got home and the fear kicked in… it’s too much, too overwhelming…there is no way this is me… nice fantasy but far safer to pretend than to actually move towards it… I’d need to change my job to do that but I can’t,

I need the money…  I don’t have the time to take all that on… and so on.  What do you say to yourself? What are the reasons you don’t embrace your life purpose?

The following is one of my favourite quotes of all time…

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International Women’s Day:

Today is the 100th anniversary of the first official International Women’s Day. I love that the day is celebrated during the Sun’s time in Pisces. Pisces is pure feminine energy, pure yin.

Interestingly Venus, the goddess of love and beauty and representative of the manifestation of our feminity was travelling through the sign of Aries at the time this day was first proposed and created. Aries represents our pioneering energy, so of course (!) the woman who first proposed such a day was Clara Zetkin, a German politician and women’s rights activist, a true female prioneer of her generation.  She fought for social and democratic rights in Germany, particularly on behalf of woman well into her 70s, finally dying in Russia after she was exiled from Hitler’s Germany. Wow!

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Saturn goes retrograde in Libra: How is this relevant to you?

With whatever you are creating at this moment in time and for the next 6+ months, a new product, a new programme, a new series of art, a book, a new relationship, are you expressing your authentic self? What about the things you’ve already created, the relationships you are already experiencing, do they reflect your inner core, your true soul? Read the rest of this entry »

Spiritually Emerging… Are you?

My big passion is to get people to step out of the caves they are hiding in and share their “light” (gifts, talents, purpose, authentic selves, soul energy) with the rest of us. So you may wonder why I’ve been hiding out for awhile recently (I’ve not updated this blog for some time)…?

Well, truth be known, I had to step back a little way into my cave to undergo an internal transition. This part of my cave feels like a chrysalis, a cocoon, a place of quiet transformation.  I needed to retreat into myself to allow it to take place unhindered by analysis.  I’ve been through periods of emergence before and have found simply letting things come, letting things be is what makes the process simpler and more effective for me, so it is almost as if I am allowing a process to take place within me without looking at it directly, without shining my light directly on it… thus my ego, my personality consciousness does not feel threatened by the changes taking place and doesn’t put up any walls to the change. Well in theory at any rate. I did have some hiccups along the way, of my own making, but I’m getting there… I am emerging again, this time I feel like the caterpillar who finally realised their purpose was to be a butterfly and needed to make a cocoon for that change to take place. I have emerged with wings but they are still really wet. I think it will take me a little time to let them dry, to feel just how big they might be, to understand their colours, to trust they are safe, to learn to fly and share my true beauty with the world…

So, what is all this wonderful picturesque analogy talk really about?

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Celebrate!

Last week was a big birthday week for me and my family. My mother, my daughter and I celebrate our birthdays 4 days apart… my mother all but dismisses her birthday, mine is between my mother’s and my daughter’s so it tends to get forgotten until the last minute as I’m so busy trying to prepare for my 4 year old’s party. Talking to many people around me this seems so typical… we celebrate ourselves less and less as we get older. Why? Surely we should be celebrating ourselves more and more?

Wouldn’t it be nice if we could celebrate who we are and those around us everyday.  But lets be realistic! Life is busy and for most of us that’s not going to happen as much as we may like it to, so the next best thing is to take time out at special times of the year to celebrate who we are, where we’ve been, where we are, our capacity to love and be loved.

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