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What happens when you face your fears and let go?

Are you stuck? Are you struggling to get different results in your life and business? Are you holding onto something, someone or somewhere? Does the idea of letting your home, your job, your partner, your family give you a tight, uncomfortable feeling in your chest?

I get it. The younger version of me was willing to travel alone to a strange country, settle there and make a life for herself… Things change. I have so much more to “lose” now, and I’ve become somewhat “risk averse”, a.k.a stuck in my fear of making the changes I need to.

The fact that my husband and kids don’t like change either does not help! It’s like pushing a boulder uphill all by yourself while they either stand there and tell you how ridiculous you are (because anything different to what they know is scary) or stand in your way so you’re balancing the boulder while trying to peer around it to find a way around them and get it up the hill. You have to be pretty committed to do that and that takes energy and A LOT of self-belief.

I have a little personal story for you that I hope will encourage you to reassess what is blocking you, where you need to make some changes and give you the determination to go for it!

Last time I posted we were about to commit to the sale of the apartment we’d lived in for over 20 years… We loved that apartment. Not only was it the kind of place people always commented on as being lovely, but it’s location was just perfect for us. On a personal level my husband and I had our whole history together in that apartment AND our daughter was born there too! We knew and liked the neighbours, the kids schools were close by… so many reasons to keep things the same!

So why did we need to move? We had a huge living room but both my husband and I work from home so our living room was for everything including both our desks! We have a son (age 13 at the time) and a daughter (age 7 at the time) and they were sharing a room and beginning to fight a lot, trying to establish their territory and get some kind of personal space for themselves. We had to move. We were all trapped, we all needed more space…

Ultimately the pain was outweighing the pleasure… So with trepidation and heavy hearts we signed the documents to sell the home that was special to us. There was no going back. We then went searching for a house. We couldn’t find anything in the area we thought we wanted to be and time was getting short before we had to be out of our apartment so we started looking a little further out than we’d originally wanted to. The choices of houses were better but given that it was winter the selection was limited. Eventually we picked one. It didn’t particularly inspire either of us but it ticked our criteria and we made an offer.

Of course there was another buyer! And so, they counter offered, then we counter offered, then they counter offered and so it went… luckily their top offer for the property was less than ours so we got the house. The fact that it was difficult to get may make you think “If it was difficult that was a sign it wasn’t meant to be”, but the fact it was difficult was right for us because during that process we really had to move from “It’s a house that ticks all our boxes even if it isn’t great” to “We want the house!” We had to commit to the house.

Our home - Christmas 2013

Our home – Christmas 2013

 

So we exchanged contracts on the new house  in October and arranged to leave our apartment in Kensington, which we loved, on Friday January 31st to move into this house that didn’t feel like us, in an unknown area in west London. We’d made the commitment theoretically but we were all concerned we’d made a mistake so we continued to enjoy living in our apartment acting as if nothing was going to change, and then it was close to moving date and we suddenly had to take action to move.

An empty apartment...

31st Jan 2014 – An empty apartment…

 

So we exchanged contracts on the new house  in October and arranged to leave our apartment in Kensington, which we loved, on Friday January 31st to move into this house that didn’t feel like us, in an unknown area in west London. We’d made the commitment theoretically but we were all concerned we’d made a mistake so we continued to enjoy living in our apartment acting as if nothing was going to change, and then it was close to moving date and we suddenly had to take action to move.

Before this happened I went to the new house as soon as we had the keys from the agent and met the movers there to supervise what went where. By the end of the day the house was pretty much set up with rugs and major furniture. It was another week before we had TV and internet but after only one night sleeping there it felt like home and it has been ever since.

We are thrilled we moved. We love the space. We love how much personal space we have. We even love having the builders in (they’ve been with us since 4 Feb doing various work that needs doing) as we put our own stamp on the house.

Fear of change. Fear of things not being as good as we have them. That is what keeps us stuck. That is what keeps us in a rut. That is what keeps us trapped. Our circumstances don’t do any of those things. It’s our fear of the unknown that stops us… and yet we finally made a massive change and it turns out, it was absolutely the right thing to do and we couldn’t be happier!

Here’s to you taking a leap of faith and making the changes you need to to get out of any rut or trap you find yourself in!

 


 

Helen Elizabeth Evans, Your Purpose-Driven-Business Mentor, is also the UK’s No. 1 Life Purpose Fingerprint Analyst. She has appeared on Channel 5 TV and been featured The Daily MirrorWomen magazineSpirit & Destiny magazine and Soul & Spirit magazine. She has 17 years experience running her own businesses and now uses that experience and non-predictive life purpose fingerprint analysis, to help her clients create businesses that are not only completely aligned with their life purpose but also make a difference in the world AND earn them a sustainable income.

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